Freedom : Noble

Hello men. (and Women who may be reading this.) I was recently talking with someone, a friend of mine, and we were discussing the “type of person” we would hope our wives would be. I was driving home one night and this conversation came into my mind. Not just this conversation, but even some of my own thoughts on the matter. As I was driving I realized:

I don’t want a woman who loves me for who I am, I want a woman who’s honest.

That seems like a really cynical statement. I myself was caught off guard when I said it. However, I will develop this thought if you will continue to read.
Often times we as people think it’s really romantic to say: “I want someone who just loves me for who I am.” Which seems like something noble and right in our heads. Of course there is truth to that statement, they shouldn’t love you for your car, they shouldn’t love you for your money or your friends. (I feel like this kind of manipulation is typically found in the popularity contest in the high school social bracket. However, I know full well that many adults never really graduate from that awkwardness in their heart. they move on to careers and college, but are still the same teen in their actions.)
I am not saying that there is not truth to that statement, because in that respect, there is. HOWEVER, it does not make it the correct statement.

The statement itself is not what makes it wrong. In my thought process I began to first attack the statement, but really it is the heart behind the statement. When someone makes that statement, it is usually made with a :”whatever I have issues, I just want someone to still love me.” First off, There is: God. If ANYONE is going to love you while you suck, it’s him. Him First. Your wife, your girlfriend, they cannot do this quite the same.
On top of that, It’s true that we do find more value in ourselves when we are loved by someone else. It’s true. We were created this way. Therefore, If you were first loved by a human, your value is not going to be based on a solid foundation. Every time you mess up, your identity and how you see yourself, your value, is going to be rocked. Not Good. So it’s important to receive this love from God first who is faithful to you even when you were his enemy.

Now, if this is true, then the woman we want is not one who loves us for who we are necessarily, but rather who she knows we are becoming everyday. She too must be one who is finding her value from a Christ who loves her as she is. If this is the case, then we have the priviledge of this proverb:
“A Honest answer is like a kiss on the lips.” (Prov. 24:26)

I Love kisses. I Love honesty. Thank you Lord for these two gifts.

The hope is that your wife and you would be a perfect match for each other. Not that you would correct each other and nag at each other all the time, but instead you would build each other up and encourage each other in who you are to become and be conformed to. (See Rom. 8:28)

You don’t want a woman who will love you just the way you are. You want one who is honest and will tell you what’s truth.
You want a woman to kiss you! YEAH!

Get my heart on this?
Now go, and find your love in Christ. (Now’s the time to do it friends.)

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